Oh My! To date or not to date?


I’d like to offer all of you a very random moment of a personal admittance:

From time to time I indulge in Funky Dineva. Why? Because I find his thoughts and theories phenomenally insightful.

With that said, recently I came across this video which was shared with me by a close friend. She was keen of asking my thoughts on this issue. Now, before I speak on them, it’s imperative that you watch the video (if you haven’t already).

I only have one thing to say, then I will get into my own thoughts.



The unfortunate truth of my life is that I have been single for well into a decade now. Truly, it is not from lack of trying but from scarcity of quality.

Call me selective, but I need a mate that will enhance my existence, not be a detriment to it.

I have never been the sort to settle, and as it seems, in today’s society there is a growing trend of settling for less than what one is worth or what one wants.

Before I go any further, I suppose it is important to point out several facts about myself that most do not know. However, in knowing, the general public may be able to understand. Perhaps even relate.

Fact Number 1:

While my vocabulary may be expansive, that by no means implies that I am obnoxious or arrogant. On the contrary; I am a gentle soul. I am kind, understanding and bighearted. Moreover, most consider me easy to talk to.

Fact Number 2:

I am sapiosexual. Am I gay? Yes. Being gay simply does not imply that one is attracted to any man. I am solely attracted to men that stimulate my mind. In stimulating my mind, they in turn stimulate my body.

Fact Number 3:

I am not now, nor have  I ever been the needy sort. I love and appreciate my independence. As a matter of fact, I NEED IT. Due to this, I cannot be with a needy, jealous man.

Fact Number 4:

The way to my heart is by your ears. Yes, that’s correct. Not my stomach, but rather, your ears. This is to say, that a man will win me over, if he just listens to me.

No, I do not mean obey, nor do I mean that he should never speak.

What I do mean is an equal give and take of conversation and listening.


It saddens me to admit that even with the little that I require, it is still impossible to find a partner that will fit the bill. Please understand that I am very pragmatic and DO HAVE realistic expectations. I never thought of life as a fairy tale. I’ve never been one to believe in perfection either. I am willing to be with the right man for ALL of his VIRTUES AND FAULTS. What I cannot do is settle for less than I want and need. “What is that?” you might be pondering.

Well, it is the following:

A kind, caring, well spoken, intellectual man, who is neither needy, nor jealous. That is it. And, as small as this list might be, I still find it impossible to fulfill.


In recent weeks I’d started dating a man who was kind, caring, not needy or jealous, BUT was less than intelligent. This was displayed in his nonsensical form or processing information. Something which, unfortunately, led to his reacting to certain situations in an ill-advised manner. This was no fault of his, to be sure, for one cannot make intelligence bloom where the soil is effete.

Nevertheless, it played an enormous part in the fact that I am no longer seeing him. You see, at times I would speak to him on subjects of considerable importance, and he would nod his understanding. Yet, in due time, when it was time for him to act on the matter, I realized that his interpretation of what I’d said was askew. It fell extraordinarily short of what I’d actually said.

After this happened, I took some time to reflect inwardly on the past decade and my encounters with potential suitors. When I did, I realized that a trend arose.

  • Most men advertised themselves as something they were not, leading me to believe that they might be the right man for me.
  • The general public had developed an unrealistic expectation of what the dating world should be, and in the attempt to adapt to it, they created a persona that is not genuine to themselves.
  • Men like myself are in short supply. I do not say this to sound ostentatious, but as a real analysis.
  • The men I AM INTERESTED, ARE NOT interested in me, for they have their own set of expectations which, in all actuality, might never be met.

So, it is with a heavy heart and a sound mind, that I’ve come to the unfathomable conclusion that I might never find what I am looking for. Thank you Dineva, for assuring me that I am not alone in the matter. 😦

Until next time,



What’s Happening in my Upcoming Anthology

Greetings everyone,


Yesterday, I had a lovely conversation with my All Authors Publishing House Mentor, Queen of Spades. She’s a wonderful, wonderful mentor, and continually has great advice.

Upon speaking to her, she suggested that I start sharing a bit about my upcoming, solo work, anthology.

I know that I’ve talked at length about several of my works, but the one thing that I never really speak on is “The Syncopation of Ravishing Intensity“, an anthology that is expected to be released the end of this year, and is written solely by your truly.

I’m sure you’re wondering, why such a title? Well, it is because it’s the best title that would fit this work. My short stories have a certain rhyme, rhythm and flow. They are much like music, they sync into one another creating a ravishing erotic effect, leaving behind an intense feeling of wantonness. While they are mostly catered to the LGBTQIA community, they can also easily be enjoyed by the straight community.

The way “The Syncopation of Ravishing Intensity” will be set up a bit differently than most anthologies available on the market today.

This book will be meant to last the reader all year long, should he/she so desire. It will also have the benefit of readers being able to go back to it time and time again.

I will be incorporating 12 stories; 3 for each season of the year. This will give the reader the benefit of enjoying the book a great many ways:

  • By reading it all at once; devouring the intensity in one sitting.
  • Perhaps, reading one story a month, so as to make it last all year.
  • Reading the stories during the seasons with which they correspond.
  • Nostalgically reading a story catered to one season, while being in another.

Or a great many other ways—whatever toots the reader’s horn, if you will.

Here are some of the titles that will be found in “The Syncopation of Ravishing Intensity“.

Winter: Prismatic Slumber

Spring: Metamorphosis

Summer: Tyronian Rapture

Fall: Her Seductions


Well, now that you have an idea of what “The Syncopation of Ravishing Intensity” is about, be on the look out for more information on the collection, and of course, the pending Winter Release.

Until next time my wonderful followers.


Incidental Musings …

Greetings my beloveds,

I suppose, today’s blog post will be more of a “thinking out loud” type of thing, as opposed to my usual targeted thoughts, sort of post. Truth be told, lately I’ve been doing more thinking and less writing. Be that for good or bad, I’ve yet to determine.

I do give fair warning, however, you may not necessarily be entertained by anything that I have to say today, as most of these thoughts aren’t aimed towards any one individual or incident.


I often wonder, Why the intentionally-unintentional competition between writers?


Please, do understand that I could very well be wrong, or misreading the signals that are being put out in the universe. Nevertheless, the question begs further analysis, and perhaps YOU can help me come to a more finite conclusion.

In recent days I came across a very new publication whose title will remain unsaid so as to not offend any readers/authors.

Said publication was a very, very similar story to the premise of “50 Shades of Grey“, the well known Bondage/Domination fictional tale by E.L. James. Much prior to this, in many occasion I stumbled upon myriad a story which were variations of “The Twilight Saga” by Stephenie Meyer.

This got me to thinking if the author that writes the story, which mimics the original, is truly “flattering” the authentic author—as in, “imitation is the sincerest form of flattery“—or is doing something else entirely?

Does the secondary author believe that his/her story can outrank the success of the first? Do they, perchance, believe that their rendition of the story will be better than the authentic narrative?

This is a perplexing idea to me. Perhaps it is because I yearn to be original. I desire, more than anything, to tell my own stories and not recycle tales that have already been told too many times to count.

On one occasion many moons ago—several years now, in fact—I was on Twitter and I noticed a tweet that read, and I quote (keeping the book title anonymous, of course) “Blank story kicks ‘shimmery vampires’ ass. Twilight has NOTHING on Blank.” Then there was a link provided to Amazon. Upon clicking on the link, I read some of the reviews written of this book that claimed to be so much better than the Twilight Saga, and what I saw astonished me. Readers were complaining about how poorly written said book was, and how the claim to fame that it professed was a hoax.

Immediately, I pondered on if that author even took the time to edit her book, or just jumped the gun to publish it because her family member read it and said, “Hey Missy, this book kicks Twilight’s ass”, so the author ran with it.

I find that, universally speaking, not everyone is going to love your story. Yet, I cannot understand the reasoning behind, “I can tell this story better than you“. So, is in fact imitation the sincerest form of flattering, or is it a silent competition to prove something?


Some weeks ago I was dared to check my email every day. In keeping to my word, I’ve done just that. Why is this relevant at all? Well, because the person whom dared me to check my email every day wanted to see if there were things that I perhaps was missing do to my weekly check.

What I’ve found is interesting …

I’ve been checking my email every day, at least once a day, and in all actuality I haven’t been missing much of anything. This might have something to do with that fact that I haven’t had much writing activity as of late. I did notice that when I was in the middle of writing projects that the email flow was more voluminous. Yet, now that things have simmered down some, the email flow has also slowed down.

One thing that I have realized though, in keeping true to the task, is that I’ve now gotten in the habit of checking it. So, in all fairness, I do believe that’s a good trade off. It helps keep me in the loop of things.


Speaking of writing …

As most of you whom follow me know, I’ve been working on my short story compilation which I’ve dubbed “Syncopation of Ravishing Intensity” after my catchphrase.

In recent weeks I’ve opted to help a friend of mine—who is a single mother of an autistic child—with babysit her child on the weekends as she works during that time. While I adore her and her child, I’ve realized that in having to care for him, it’s impacted my productivity in writing. I’m finding it truly hard to concentrate and produce anything of substance during this time. I honestly want to continue to assist her in this fashion, but I need to find a balance between caring for him and producing quality works for my upcoming anthology, for if I do not, I fret that I might not release the book.


Authors helping authors …

Anyone who follows my blog knows that I am all for helping other authors in cross promoting. Yet, what happens when people you network with vouch for someone who, in the end, dose not comply with you?

I’m not certain if that thought makes any sense, but I am of the mind that explaining is better than telling.

Recently, an author who networks with my Publisher released a book. My Publisher reached out to the lot of us to ask if we’d be interested in helping him spread the word about his upcoming release in the form of a Blog Tour. I offered my assistance, and immediately sent said person a question (yes … just one) for him to answer so that I could post something about his upcoming work. The man in question never responded. Yet, because I am a person of my word, I still posted the announcement of his book release.

Is that fair? Is it right that I attempt to offer a helping hand, yet the person whom I’m offering it to does not comply and still I help? What is to say that in a moment when I need the cross promotion, this very same person will come through? I doubt that he will.


How does one garner a name for oneself when all one has to offer is short stories and anthology participation? I’ve been putting a lot of thought into this. I am not a novel writer. It’s just not my forte. Everyone has their gifts, and novel writing is simply not one of mine. My gifts lie in short story writing. Yet, without a novel of my own to showcase, how then do I tell the world about what I do?

It seems to me that short story writing is among the hardest type of writing to promote (along side poetry). Perhaps one of the reasons is because most people do not consider short story writing an actual art form. Perhaps, it’s because word count is more valued than substance. I cannot say for sure. Yet, the conundrum exists. How can I share my art, when art like mine isn’t valued as such?


Hmmm … I do believe that I’ve gotten everything that I’ve wanted to get off of my chest, off of it. LOL. 😀

Please, if you can relate at all, do not hesitate to share your thoughts. I would love to hear from any of you on any one of these subjects.

All the best,


My Style


It has been some time since I’ve written you. It’s been an even longer time since I’ve received a fan question.

Gratefully, today I have one to share.

A fan asked:

If someone were to scurry through Adonis Mann’s closet, what type of clothing would they find and why?

Well, as simple as this question is, it is also a bit on the complex side. Here is why: I am inclined to wear different things on different days and it all depends on the mood and/or weather. Nevertheless, let me share an inside look at what things I would be more inclined to wear.

Welcome to Adonis Mann’s Closet!


Perhaps it is my sophisticated nature, perhaps my affinity for all things refined and polished, but I am truly a fan of the cosmopolitan look.

On a weekday, when I am work bound, people are more likely to find me wearing something like this …

Soph Wadrb 4 Men

And, I would more than likely wear these outfits in exactly the order in which they appear (Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday & Friday). Of course, I would probably add ties to the last 4 outfits.

During a weekend outing with friends, I would be found wearing something like this …


Excluding the ties.

On a date night with a handsome fellow, I would absolutely fetch my nifty pinstriped suite.


And on a quiet night indoors, I would wear my comfy pajamas. Preferably, a long sleeve t-shirt and pajama pants, like so …


So, that’s about it. That is my wardrobe in a nutshell. 🙂

I hope this answered your question, beloved reader.

Until next time,


Children Are Amazing

A few weeks ago I had a very long conversation with my good friend’s daughter. She said to me, “Mr. Mann, you should write a childrens story.”

It is amazing how something that simple can really get one’s mind running.

“Kasandra,” I responded, “I am not very good at writing childrens stories. Or at least I don’t think I’d be very good. I’ve only ever written adult books.”

“Mr. Mann,” she went on, “Us kids need books too. Plus, then you can read it to me when you’re done writing it. Then I can tell all my friends that you are an author and we are friends.”

“Kasandra sweetheart, please tell me, what would this story have to be about?”

“Well,” she went on, “I think it needs to have unicorns in it.”


“Yes, unicorns. Oh, oh, but not ‘unicorns and booty’ because that is what The New Day says. Just only unicorns.”

I chuckled.

“So, what would these unicorns be doing?”

“Visiting magical places. Oh, and they can go on adventures too.”

“Really, adventures eh? What sort of adventures?”

“Well, unicorns are magical so it can be any kind of adventure.”

“Very nice Kasandra. I like that idea. But, apart from the unicorns, what else and/or who else would be in the story?”

“The main character.” she stated matter-of-factly.

I giggled once more. “Great idea, Kasandra. But, who will the main character be?”

“A boy.” she stated with a twinkle in her eyes.

“Oh, I see. And, what will this boy be doing?”

“Having adventures with the unicorn.”

“Ooooh, I see. That’s a wonderful idea. You know Kasandra, I don’t really write childrens stories, but for you, I think I will give it a shot.”

She laughed with glee, and ever since then whenever she sees me she reminds me of the story that I’m supposed to be writing and tells me to let her know when it’s done.

A few days ago, I went to the state park to enjoy a day out and as I basked in the ambiance, I saw a tree. A withered, poorly, tree whose shape reminded me of the silhouette of a woman. Wouldn’t you know it, that just like that the idea of a childrens story hit me.

I am pleased to announce that I have officially started the first draft of a childrens story that is yet to be named and will be dedicated to my sweet Kasandra for having been the inspiration behind the idea.

I am uncertain when it will be completed, but I am looking forward to it. I hope that my publisher is able to find a illustrator as it may require pictures.

With that said, I’d like to wish you a Very Merry Christmas! Love and peace to all.

Funny Inquiry

I was given the funnies inquiry and I feel obliged to have to respond to it today.


I was asked, “Out of all of your characters (whether in your published works of WIPs), which guy would you have an intimate rendezvous with and why?

I giggled when I read this fan question as it gave me much to ponder on. You see, in my mind, I secretly have an amorous relationship with them all. The truth is that I’ve created them out of my desire to find a man like them. Therefore, to a certain degree, I’d love a rendezvous with all of them.

I suppose, however, that the dare (and the fun) in this question is to pick just one. Thus, I’ll endeavor to indulge my beloved reader with an answer.

Here we go …

thumbs up

Recently, I’ve been doing a lot of writing, as I mentioned in the last blog post I wrote. In that, I’ve come up with a story that remains nameless thus far, whose main character is indubitably the man with whom I would converge.

He is sexy, radiant, daring and suave. Everything about his demeanor says, “Hey, let’s get it on.” 😀 And to make matters even better, he has no name. Yes, that’s correct. I left this character nameless on purpose. In all honestly, if I were to bask on a night on the town with one purpose and one purpose alone, I won’t want to know the sensuous beat’s name. I’d just want to have my way with him and nothing m0re.

In the spirit of that same circumstance, I’ve left this character nameless.


In the story, this character has an encounter with a man by the name of Shy. Shy, for all intended purposes, was modeled after me.

So, I suppose, in essence I answered the question given to me before I even received it. LOL.


Well, that’s all for now.

Before I go however, I’d like to wish you all a Happy Thanksgiving. May your day be blessed and filled with joy. With an open heart, I bid you all the best Thanksgiving ever.


Writing More

Greetings wonderful people.

blowing kissesPS:
I look nothing like that when I’m blowing kisses—I’m a bit more like a fumbling oaf—but the image was irresistible. * giggling *


Now on to the topic of today’s blog post. 😀

I was asked by a very dear friend of mine the other day, and I quote, “Donny, how do you feel now that you are writing longer stories?” This question led me to write this blog post.


The question left me pondering, “Am I indeed writing longer stories?” I find that the answer to this question is twofold. In part, I am. In part, I am not.

You see, I consider myself a sort of short story connoisseur. By no means a master or king as said trade, but certainly a specialist. You see, every writer has his/her preference. Many refer to it as “their thing”. Short stories—particularly, LBGT Erotic short stories—are mine. I do also babble in other contemporary fiction genres, as I did for my recent contribution to “Concordant Vibrancy 2: Vitality” which will be hitting book shelves January of next year. As well as my Contemporary Fiction Romance contribution to “Crackles of the Heart: Divergent Ink Book One” this past summer. However, I irreversibly return to what I know and love, LGBT Erotic.

Now …

In recent weeks I’ve been doing quite a bit of writing. Granted, some stories have been longer than others. So, I suppose, that this is the part of the answer which is a yes.

For example:


With the anthology that I am a part of in conjunction with author and wonderful friend, Synful Desire, called “Simmer: Smoothe & Sweet“, (being released December of this year) I wrote a whopping 6,167 words. This is far above my typical 1,000 – 1,500 word pieces.

And for my upcoming anthology, named after my slogan, “Syncopation Of Ravishing Intensity“, I wrote a longer piece, which is as yet unnamed, that is about 3,000 words in length. Again, an enormous feat for a person that typically writes stories half that size, sometime even smaller.

In this regard, I am indeed writing longer stories, albeit still short in comparison to most writers. Principally, those whom dedicate themselves to novel writing.


However, the part of the answer that is no, relates more so to another reason.

While my stories have not been much longer, in essence, than what I’d originally been writing, my writing has been more frequent.

That is to say, I’ve been writing more in general.

I’ve had an innumerable amount of stories floating around in my head. All short thus far, but there nonetheless. Each one yearning to be told, therefore, I am breathing life into them. 🙂


Truth be told, I am highly excited about what the future holds with/for my writing venture. I believe that this was what I was meant to do all along, and it is an indubitably wondrous feeling to achieve your lifelong dream.

I, thank you, dear fan/reader/follower. Your insurmountable support has been invaluable, and I look forward to sharing my art with you.

Lots of love to you all.